The media and other mediums have caused a mass perfectionism epidemic where women are expected to be perfect all the time. I know what this is like as the victim of military abuse and having suffered severe trauma and a near death experience. People think you should be skinny and perfect overnight and better right away, but it doesn’t often work like that. It’s a journey for all women out there and I want to normalise weight concerns because I’ve had them, so have others out there so don’t be so hung up on what you look like. Don’t be so perfectionistic toward yourself or others because the world isn’t made perfect. There are imperfections everywhere and if you happen to have some like most people do, don’t be ashamed of them, be happy that you are unique.

Vanity has its grips on the world. It is destroying the freedom of many women while it’s important to overcome it and love your body and self now, it is just as important to look after yourself. I know what it’s like to be sabotaged and to be destroyed so I can’t do this for you but in that understand that people will do things that are cruel and inhumane toward women when it comes to looks but you must be greater than any war that is waging in the world and win over the enemy at large which is the ideal image of a woman that has you feel you are not good enough.

So when others are expecting you to be perfect as people do me, even given everything I have been through, it’s important not to make excuses but to be kind to yourself, be loving toward yourself and be able to rise in life no matter what occurs so you can live your life, winning the battle against the enemy that tries to take you out of the game because of looks. Be as stunning as you like, while loving yourself for the true beauty you are and make sure you look after yourself and take time out as I have had to because I was destroyed to be able to be the change you want to see.

Overcoming the expectation of perfectionism was originally published to Battle babes fitness